Should I See a Therapist?

October 30, 2019

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If you’ve received a diagnosis like depression, anxiety, or ADHD, the decision to see a therapist may be pretty clear. But for many people who don’t have a diagnosis, the decision to see a therapist can be less straightforward.

While studies have found an increase in people in their 20s and 30s seeking therapy, many still feel stigma towards it. Without a formal diagnosis, people may feel like their situations aren’t “bad enough” for therapy.

The problem with this mindset is that you don’t need a specific diagnosis to benefit from therapy. In fact, we all go through times in our lives that may require a bit of extra help to see us through smoothly.

Below are some common reasons that have driven people to begin therapy.

  1. You Have a Major Decision to Make or You’ve Gone Through a Major Change

    Deciding whether to take a new job, start a family, or buy a house are all major life decisions that can sometimes feel too big to make on your own. A therapist can help guide you to the right choices for where you are in your life.

    And once you’ve weighed your options and have made the best decision for you, most people experience some unpleasant feelings when there’s big life changes – even if the change is positive and wanted.

    Getting a promotion, becoming a parent, or buying your first home are all wonderful changes that can also trigger anxiety, stress, sleep disturbances, and more. Talking to a trained professional can help equip you with tools for coping as you adjust.

  1. You’re Having Relationship Issues

    Relationships naturally go through their ups and downs – it’s normal and even healthy.  But sometimes this pattern can become unhealthy. It may be beneficial to get an objective perspective from a therapist, either individually or as a couple.

    Therapists can highlight reoccurring patterns that are difficult to identify on your own. This can help strengthen a relationship or offer clarity on whether or not it’s time to leave.

    Furthermore, if you’re in a healthy relationship, couples counseling can be a great way to maintain it. Learn effective communication skills and conflict management tools that will be useful for the long term.

  1. You’re going through a break up

    If you’re going through a break up, it can be difficult to suddenly find yourself on your own again. Losing a partner can feel like a loss of identity and purpose. It’s a major emotional undertaking that you don’t have to go through on your own. Therapists can offer support, objectivity, and resources to help you through.

  1. You’re Repeating Unhealthy Thoughts or Behaviors

    Sometimes we can get stuck in a thought pattern that’s unhealthy or destructive. Negative self-talk, ruminating thoughts, or constantly catastrophizing are just some ways your thoughts can wear on your mental health. It can be difficult to recognize these patterns though, so a therapist can help identify and offer ways to change them.

    Other times it’s our actions that can be an indicator of a deeper issue. Drinking more than usual, using drugs, engaging in unsafe sex, seeking out violence or confrontation, or developing an unhealthy relationship with food can all be signs that you may need help.

Ultimately, remember that you don’t need a specific reason to see a therapist. If you’re feeling down or just not quite yourself, therapy can be a great way to work through those feelings. Just about everyone can benefit from therapy, so you can always try it out and see if it’s for you.

If you’d like to schedule with one of our in-center or telehealth therapists, give us a call at 800.600.4096.

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